Emotional boundaries are your rules of engagement.
You know how on social media when someones post upsets you or angers you and you have the option to mute/unfollow them, you can do that irl too with emotional boundaries. Last month we talked about what boundaries are (you can check that out here) and this month we are going to focus on how to set emotional boundaries specifically.
What do emotional boundaries protect?
Emotional boundaries help you protect… well your emotions. That includes your feelings, ideas, wishes, and how you see the world around you. These boundaries should help you set limits for what you’re willing to tolerate and help you realize that the only emotions you can control are your own.
“The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself.”daries daShannon L. Alder
quick Boundary builder
I feel -emotion-
when you -action-
and if you continue to do this,
I will have to -how you will change-
Example – I feel ANGERED when you TALK DOWN TO ME and if you continue to do this, I will have to rethink the things I share with you.