What are boundaries & Why do we need them?

Boundaries are one of the most helpful tools you have constant access to.

They might seem hard or even scary to set, but they are ESSENTIAL to a healthy mind and life. Like most everything in life, you need to find the balance between healthy and unhealthy boundaries. Let’s discuss the differences between the two and how to input them into your everyday life!

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Healthy boundaries are guidelines that people create to protect their mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional health. Healthy boundaries form a sense of self, help you keep resentment away, and keep your needs met. Boundaries are knowing and honoring what your body needs, and that’s the ultimate form of self-care. Let’s say one of your friends is always talking about someone/something you’d rather not speak about… you can kindly say “I’d appreciate if we could change the subject as that’s something I don’t care to speak on.”

“Boundaries define us. they define what is me and what is not me. a boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins.”

Henry Cloud

Unhealthy boundaries are not having any, or not standing on the ones you have created for yourself. The only person who can change that is you. Think of setting boundaries as a simple “yes” or “no” that affect your personal limits. A super common example of this is unfollowing/muting someone on social media. Let’s say someone’s posts trigger you about your weight, you have 2 choices follow them and let it affect you every time you see the posts, or unfollow and not have to see them anymore. That is you drawing a line in what you want to think about and feel!

Take a minute to reflect in a journal, your mind or share in the comments…

What boundaries are the hardest for you to set?

Why do you think that?

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