Almost 3 years ago, I packed up my WHOLE life in a tiny Uhaul and moved 2000 miles away from home. It was absolutely the scariest thing I had ever done in my life. I was leaving behind all I knew and loved. I went from Boston to Austin and I did it on a whim, I had never even visited Texas before the move. I told my family I was leaving maybe a month before I actually left. I almost let the first year break me, I ALMOST moved back home. I’m so happy I chose myself, I’m so happy I stuck it out because I truly found myself far away from home.
Okay, let’s talk about that first year. It was hard, I’m not going to sugarcoat it. It was so lonely and empty and I realized so much about so many people I was close to. I cried many days and nights while looking for a job, some friends, and just overall adjusting to my new settings. It was weird when the phone stopped ringing after the first 6 months, people didn’t wanna talk much anymore, and I couldn’t understand why. I came to learn that some people only clap for you when you’re close enough to hear it. Once I realized that, my outlook towards my move COMPLETELY changed and I learned so many valuable lessons.
Lessons I learned 2000 miles away from home.
How comfortable I had become being comfortable.
You’re probably thinking isn’t being comfortable a good thing?! Honestly, it’s not. We are made to change and grow and learn. It really took me moving 2000 miles away to understand how much my hometown and the people around me aided in holding me back. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not placing blame on anyone but myself. I should have realized how much I was being enabled in choices that didn’t benefit my wellbeing or support the person I wanted to be.
Relationships WILL change.
Obviously, some will stay strong but many could also fizzle out, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Sometimes being removed from certain people is exactly what you need to grow. I had friends (and family) I thought we’re my ride or die but turned out the ride was only around my hometown. Don’t let this get you down, it doesn’t always have to be some big blow out, sometimes we just outgrow people and that okay.
It’s much easier to make your own choices.
Not having the constant pressure of “how will the people around me react to this decision” or “how will this affect the people around me” is truly so freeing. We don’t realize how much we take into consideration of our surroundings even when making a personal choice, however when everything is unfamiliar it’s easier to make a choice based solely on our own mind.
I love spending time alone.
At first, loneliness is hard, you feel so small because you’re somewhere new and don’t know anyone or your surroundings. That starts to change the more time you spend without anyone you’re familiar with. You truly learn that your company is all you’ll have in the end so you might as well get to know yourself. Not just know yourself, LOVE yourself. Moving made me realize I am my own best friend, and for that I’m grateful.
A new relationship with food.
I feel like this one is overlooked and can go good or bad, the choice is up to you. When you live far away no one is going to be able to judge you for crushing a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every night or immediately see the effects of that, but you need to choose if that’s the lifestyle you want. For me personally being able to cook whatever I wanted whenever I wanted was a gamechanger! Wanna meal prep at 1 am? no problem. I’ve lost over 60 pounds since I moved because my relationship with food changed so much. I think being able to cook in my own space and try new things was what fueled this, being so far out of your comfort zone makes little choices like what to eat seem so much easier.
This move changed my life, in many many ways. While it was hard at first it really ushered in changes within me that I didn’t even know were possible. Now I’m not saying book the next flight and just figure it out, but I am saying that sometimes something that seems too scary or not worth it could be the best choice you ever make.
Would you ever make a big move like this? Let me know in the comments!